Title:
WEDDING COMPLICATIONS IN CHINA

Authors:
Daniel Otero ,China

Abstract:
Nobody can really understand what is a wedding and its complications than those couples who have been through it. This paper intends to investigate the ‘formidable’ [but not impossible] problems happening when two people in China decide to marry. Not only from the legal stand point, but from a moral one. Further, what goes into planning a wedding, setting everything to near ‘perfection’, and all to place attention to detail on every single aspect of tradition which goes into the ceremony. China, although presently modernizing, does follow a lot of traditionalism from olden times. Those practices reflecting proudly on 5,000 years of: culturalhistory, heritage, and have stood the test of time. Through this investigation, it is to show the steps on how to get married. From the period of courtship to the alter and after. Men and women plan this ceremony; whether for suitability, compatibility, economic wealth or love. But one thing is certain, the new mixes with the old in this society. And as the older generation influences on the wedding, the younger tries to make their points of view heard or try to break away from the old ways, when East meets West. One main point of the wedding to consider, it cannot be performed without the input of the ‘almighty’ tiger-mother/mother-in-law. She will be at every turn to wade her point of view; whether it is asked from her or not. The mother and mother-in-law will typically border on intrusiveness. For this reason, not only holding to traditions is important for most Chinese, but it is still a culture guided by parents—even when their children are young adults.